Misogynic Men

From DEDspace:

It has always seemed to me that there are a lot more homophobic men than women. Women who hate gays tend to be those who were told to do so by their churches, but with men, fear of male homosexuality cuts a much longer and wider path.
And this brings me to a subject I don't think gets enough discussion: Men who freak out over men being together in a romantic/sexual relationship freak out because for them, it all comes down to their own fear of being someone's butt-boy. Which would be really humiliating and would turn a man into something truly loathesome--a woman.
The fear of being made "a woman" by another man will send an otherwise shallow and apathetic man into a letter-writing, Focus on the Family-contributing, Republican-voting lunatic. Show me a man who hates gay males and I'll show you a man who despises women.

First of all, the above is little more than speculation. There is no hard evidence establishing a positive correlation between homophobes and misogynists. Having said this, should you ask a misogynistic man how he feels about homosexuals, Im willing to bet he would be hostile to say the least.

Having experience with this as a gay man myself, I would break the mysoginist group down like this: First there is the set of all Misogynists. Second, there are the Homophobic Misogynists and Non-Homophobic Misogynists (stay with me here). In the set of Homophobic Misogynists you have Gay Homophobes and Straight Homophobes. The Gay Homophobes are usually the ones that are loudest and most insistent concerning their masculinity. They are closeted, sexually frustrated, and mentally ill. Straight Homophobes are homophobic most likely because their religion demands it of them (just as their religion demands a certain level of misogyny).

On the other side, and more interestingly, we have the Non-Homophobic Misogynists. In my experience these men are almost always gay. Openly gay men that strongly dislike or hate women are exceedingly common. The media stereotype of the gay man as an effiminate party boy that loves "girl talk" and shopping with the fag hags certainly has some grounding. But even a simple examination of what a gay man's female friends are called is revealing: Fag Hag. Rather than "girlfriend," or, better yet, "friend" (a gender free term liberated from certain prejudices), gay men call their lady buddies "hags."

Webster has some delightful information concerning hags..............
Etymology: Middle English hagge demon, old woman1 : an ugly, slatternly, or evil-looking old woman2 archaic a : a female demon b : an evil or frightening spirit : HOBGOBLIN3 : WITCH- hag·gish /'ha-gish/ adjective

Homosexual icon Margaret Cho contributed to the popularization of the term Fag Hag on tour:
"....I am a fag hag....we went with you to prom....we helped you through the underground railroad.... The only people left at last call in a gay bar are straight women."

Here Cho characterizes Fag Hags as being little more than accessories, abandoned in the gay bar as soon as the Fag in question finds a sex partner.

Gay men often use slang to refer to women of all kinds. This slang includes words like, "gash," "tuna," and "hatchet wound," to name a few. All these terms communicate not only the gender of the person or group referred to, but a violent distate for their sexual organs as well.

What explains this hatered for women? I seriously doubt it is rooted in a strong desire to appear masculine and strong vis a vis a weak, subservient individual. Many very effiminate (and proudly so) gay men diplay this same dislike for women.

I think the cause is found in the gay community's willingness to objectify almost everything. Gay men are extremely promiscuous. With few exceptions, a gay man will make first-impression style judgments about someone based on that person's attractiveness (this probably holds true to some degree for most people, but gay men tend to exaggerate the importance of attraction and subsequent sexual activity). With this in mind, a woman hold absolutely no sexual importance for a gay male, and thus can only hold his attention for a limited time (if at all).

It might sound politically incorrect but it is the truth. Put simply, guys like to fuck and they want to do it a lot.....gay or straight. Hell, some guys want sex so badly they will partake in gay sex even though they characterize themselves as straight (given the opportunity for sexual activity is more probable with a gay man than a straight woman). So if you get a community of guys together that are attracted to other guys, naturally there is gonna be a whole lotta fuckin. Combine that with sex being the tie that binds a community together and defines it both inwardly and outwardly, and any deviation from that definition is going to be regarded with scorn.

Its not all very well thought out yet, but this will have to do. Until then, Ill keep thinking.